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Zac Cannell & Sam Makin – dealing with it

Zac Cannell & Sam Makin – dealing with it


I’m Zac, I am a proud Transgender man, which means that I was born Female, and transitioned to my gender to male medically. I’m a social worker by profession. Yeah I like doing a bit of a community advocacy,
spending time with my partner, playing Lego, and being with my nephews. I suppose acceptance is one of the things that the
trans community has the biggest concerns with. It’s really difficult to navigate the community
when it’s so heteronormative. There’s a lot of diversity in
amongst the trans community, so genders; not just male and female, there’s a lot of spectrum in between,
and some people just don’t understand that. It’s difficult on families, it’s difficult on partners, there’s fragments even within
the gender diverse community that don’t understand one another, and depending on the age group you’ve got bullying, and harassment, there’s transphobia,
and discrimination. Even coming out in the workplace in
professional spaces is a difficult task. Zac and I met at the end of 2015 in December, we met online. Relationships for me are normally quite difficult, I identify as asexual, so I don’t feel sexual attraction, which for a lot of people relationships
are often based primarily on sex. She’s a massive support, you know, when I
was feeling uncomfortable at certain, you know, things about my body, and you know,
she was really understanding of that sort of stuff, and that kind of stuff came natural
to her, it was actually really, it was just a pleasant way to enter a relationship,
and she’s been like my rock, and yeah honestly I couldn’t ask for anyone who’s been more supportive. We just like to spend time around each other, we don’t necessarily need to be doing
an activity together, or anything like that, if we do go out sometimes
we’ll go to a show, go to a gig. I think everybody does struggle, it’s one
of those things where, you know, everybody’s got stress, and everybody’s got different
things that provoke anxiety, and anxiety can be a good thing, it can be a motivator and a driver, but for some people it can be utterly debilitating, it’s just balancing that, and working out how to stay well, how to stay healthy, and look after yourself. To other young trans folk, I’d honestly just
say that it does get better. There are now options, you can seek help and
support, and it’s okay to talk. The political climate is getting better, our
social climate is getting much more supportive. Be yourself. Be your authentic self, and be kind to yourself. There there are always people who
are going to disagree, and you know, you are perfectly okay just the way you are, and if you want to change that’s fine. There are ways, there are doctors, there are
people around who can support you. To have positive mental health as a trans
and gender diverse person, it’s just tolerance and acceptance, and I really use the word tolerance loosely,
it is acceptance. There’s a great new phrase I’m hearing in
the community, it says SAGA; Sexuality And Gender Acceptance, it’s a great way to look that
this is the next journey forward. It’s about being supportive, it’s about being
understanding, it’s about a little bit of empathy, it’s about a bit of education, it’s about going ‘you know what… this is exactly who you are, this is your reality, I can deal with that’.

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