What Is a Relapse | Dealing with a Mental Relapse

What Is a Relapse | Dealing with a Mental Relapse

Hi everyone! This video is going
to be about relapses. Such as what a relapse is in regard to
your mental health, and just how common a relapse actually is.
A relapse essentially means a deterioration of health after an
improvement. So for example, a drug user may show signs of
improvement and seek treatment and help, and actually be free
from drugs for a period of time, and then they revert back to
their past behavior. That is what a relapse is, and it can
take many forms and happens to pretty much everyone that
struggles with anxiety, depression, self-harm,
addictions, whatever else. The truth is, relapses are not only
common, but happens to pretty much everyone that has made
progress and overcome struggles. A relapse can occur shortly
after treatment begins, or even after years of being free from
the problems. Even the severity can vary, in that it can
completely make one revert back to past behavior, maybe even
worse than it was before, or it could last only a short period
of time. Your past self and past behavior is a reflection of
you in the present, whether you realize this or not. So, if you
were a heavy drug user in the past, that behavior will
continue to stay in your life. Even if you manage to overcome
the addiction, life will always be testing you by manifesting
scenarios into your life where you can put your positive coping
mechanisms into play. It’s a test life is giving you to cope
properly and rise above it. But, relapses happen. The reason for
this is because it’ll always be a part of you. It’s something
you use to do and partake in, and there is no escaping it. You
have memory of it, you know what it was like, and you know how it
made you feel at the time. And while you’ve managed to overcome
it, the thought is still in your subconscious on some level
because it was something you use to do in the past. Your past
and how you behaved tells a lot about you in the present. But,
this doesn’t always have to be a negative thing since you can
overcome the problems and rise about the struggles to cope
positively. Let’s talk about why a relapse may happen. Perhaps
one reason a relapse may happen early on is because the true
issues aren’t being addressed. So, if someone had an addiction
and severe anxiety due to past abuse they endured, that is
their coping mechanism and what they are seeking treatment
for. In order to overcome these issues, it’s not as easy as
finding better ways to cope. While that is a part of it,
the other major obstacle is the trauma they endured. Until they
can face that and overcome it, they will continue to have some
sort of problem coping with it. Relatedly, another reason has to
do with all the problems being brought to the surface, making
the person have a more difficult time coping. With the same
example, the person has to address the abuse and trauma in
order to overcome it so they can resolve the conflict. During
the process of talking about the trauma, it’s like reliving it.
Everything comes back to you as if it’s happening right now
in the present. This can be unbearable to some. This too can
cause a relapse since it becomes too much for the person to
handle. This is also where someone may not only relapse,
but also sink deeper into their problems. Perhaps the person in
this example begins to develop even more anxiety and negative
coping mechanisms, perhaps even going back to the drugs and
doing them even more frequently. To them, it feel like nothing
will ever get better and it feels like everything is going
down and they are getting worse. This is very common during this
part of the healing process. Next, let’s say years after
recovery the person begins to go back to their old behavior. Why
is this? Well, it could be due to triggers, or even
insufficient coping mechanisms they are employing in their
current life. Perhaps an event that takes place years later,
perhaps similar or completely different from what they were
dealing with in the past, causes them to feel the same way they
did in the past when they didn’t have proper coping mechanisms
and were abusing drugs and had severe anxiety. It doesn’t
matter how different the situation is because it makes
them feel the same as they did in the past. It brings back
those memories to them. That’s the trigger. From there, they
do not have coping mechanisms to properly handle the situation so
they end up thinking more about abusing drugs, and the people
they were involved with. These thoughts turn into a craving for
it which turn into reverting to past behavior. They begin taking
drugs again, developing more anxiety, and their health begins
to deteriorate as they go back to how they were in the past.
Until they can find a proper way to cope and address the
behavior, they could very well be stuck back in a relapse as
it gets worse. With that being said, how do you deal with a
relapse? I’ll discuss that now. Dealing with a relapse has
to primarily do with several factors. One of the most
important one is coping mechanisms. I have a video
dedicated to this so I’ll have an annotation and a link in the
description to this video where I discuss some positive ways of
coping. The reason why this is crucial is because a relapse
will happen when you are unable to employ efficient ways of
coping with your problems, so you revert back to old habits
that you are use to. It’s easier to slip back into old patterns
than it is to develop new ones. So, while it may take some time
to actually develop positive ways of coping with your
problems, there will be times that this old thinking will come
back. This brings me to the fact that relapses happen. This may
seem simple, but it’s actually quite amazing how many people
get worried when their past behavior comes back. It will
come back and manifest in one way or another. But, here is how
I view it. I view it as a test life is giving me. Going back
to the example of the drug user, they’ve overcome the drug
addiction and found better ways of coping and they discover that
their best friends is a drug user. This person feels that
urge come back and they give in. Instead of waiting it out for a
bit and utilizing their coping mechanisms, they give in. That
could trigger the relapse and they begin to do it even more.
Or, they can practice their coping mechanisms, wait it out,
and remove themselves from the situation and not be around it.
If this person has overcome the addiction and is still
constantly thinking about it, talking about it, craving it,
and even associating with others that do it, that can be a
serious problem as they have so much stimulation of drugs
being poured into their mind. A relapse at that point can be
pretty much inevitable. With that being said, just as you
would cope with the problems to begin with, you have to get away
from the things that are causing this relapse. With the example I
just gave, your friend is into drugs, and perhaps you are
around your friend quite a bit, maybe you work together and you
see it and it tempts you. The truth is, you have to get away
from this friend. At the very least, you can have a talk with
your friend and tell them that you do not want to be around
it because you have overcome a serious addiction and need time
away so you don’t relapse. A true friend will respect your
wishes. Someone who is not your friend will continue to do the
drugs in front of you and/or even try to persuade you into
doing them. If that is the case, then you need to get away from
this person and realize that they simply are not your friend.
You must do what is best for you, and that is distancing
yourself from people, places, events, and anything and
everything else that will trigger those thoughts of past
behavior. And lastly, realize that there is no such thing as
failure. Just because you have a relapse and go back into old
behavior and thinking, doesn’t mean you cannot overcome it
again and actually deal with it properly. The truth is, you got
out of it once, so it’s possible to do it again. Keep trying and
work on your problems so you can be free from those negative ways
of coping. Don’t let it have a hold of you, or feel ashamed of
yourself because only you can get out of it by rising above
the negativity and not letting it control you. So in conclusion, a relapse is a
return to old behavior after one has managed to overcome a
struggle. It is a deterioration of health after an improvement.
At one point or another, we will all deal with temporary setbacks
and relapses, but this is the test life is giving us. Life is
putting our new ways of coping to the test and we can overcome
it by practicing positive ways of coping. We will not fail as
long as we continue to get back up and learn what we were
supposed to during a relapse. I hope this video was
informative and helpful. Thanks for watching!

Comments (46)

  1. I love your videos so much.

  2. great video, I'm going to show this to my husband, to help him understand me a little better.πŸ’™πŸ’œ

  3. True great video ❀️

  4. I honestly cannot believe the perfect timing of this video! Thank you so much Autumn! I needed this πŸ˜€ xx

  5. Your voice is so peaceful.

  6. Thanks for the great video Autumn πŸŒΉπŸ’•πŸ’• . Makes perfect sense to me. Happy FridayπŸ’›πŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸ’•πŸ’•

  7. As always a very good, helpful and informative video atumm β™‘ I think I am actually developing a little crush on you haha πŸ˜€ anyway.. amazing video

  8. I have bipolar and I was insane for a few days. I don't do drugs I don't know why I'm bipolar and knowing I might relapse scares me more than dying.

  9. Your videos help me so much. Thank you

  10. Panic disorder relapses happen to me every 6 months to a year. I never manage to fully recover. I'm at the bottom of the barrel yet again…

  11. I'm recovering from a relapse of depression… This video really helps me. And haha your voice is so soothing

  12. A wonderful summary/analysis of an exceedingly difficult topic.

  13. treal videos autumn
    big you up for all you do on your channel

  14. I can't believe it took a beautiful, weird, gothic transgender woman over YouTube to make me realize so much about myself.

  15. You're so beautiful

  16. Omg thank you so very much! Its like perfect timing. Im an ex smoker and so tempted to order some new stuff. I even bought a humidor but now thanks to you I wont be buying any tobacco. I cant say thank you enough. You are millions of times more amazing and helpful than every therapist ive ever talked to. Really I could thank you a million times but it still wouldn't be enough. Im still tempted but I think i just need to up the nicotine on my vaping stuff as zero nic is certainly not helping. Thank you again. This isnt the first time your videos have helped me either btw. Just really thank you for being so awesome. πŸ™‚

  17. I had a relapse 15mins before I saw this. Thx!

  18. just want to say thankyou for all your videos, you are an inspiration.

  19. thanks: ) i love your video. and if was very helpful: )

  20. I believe most people who suffer from addiction, whether it be food, alcohol, drugs, sex, etc….have a heightened sense of pleasure in the brain, thus the pleasure or escape out-weighs anything else. Your voice is so soothing. I might have a crush on you

  21. nice new hair color love yaa autumn

  22. I know we don't know each other, but I've been watching for awhile, and I want you to know I care about you very much.
    You're such an amazing person.
    Much love.

  23. i thought it was when it all falls out like.

  24. Wow, this was posted at a perfect time for me. Good video as always, Autumn.

  25. the timing of this is synchronistic to a frightening level. I've been lurking and watching your videos for a while now and I'm trans(mtf 7 months hrt) and literally relapsed 2 days before(and for a week after) this video. I just saw it today. literally every word applied to my situation. like literally it's a friend I sorta work with and he always gets high in front of me. thanks for somehow sending me the exact message I required, it was like God spoke to me through you + this video through some bizarre happenstance of fate… thank you, peace, love, and God bless β™‘

  26. was very disappointed that you didn't answer my question, I asked to you on your website (yeah, sent it on your question-thread)

  27. Thanks Autumn for sharing your videos with the world they are always so educational and inspiring and youre voice is so soothing……….

  28. Thank you so much for making this. I really needed to hear this right now. Much love!

  29. Autumn you are a amazingly insightful person, it's incredibly generous of you to share your life experiences and techniques you have utilised to be the women you very much desired to be today. You have helped me personally with finding strategies to cope with my mood disorders. Iv only discovered your channel few weeks ago and so glad I did. X

  30. P.s the world needs more human beings like you! You deserve all the love and happiness that life has to offer. I can't say enough positive things about you from one women to another. X

  31. I smoked pot for about 20 years but it, in itself was never a problem. I have had a few anxiety attcks in the last few years that are not related to it. I have been clean for about 7 years pot-wise, stopped drinking and quit my small stint with cigs – even quit fast food and soda! πŸ™‚ Still there are things/decisions in life with ppl I have to stop. Until I figure out what I am doing wrong with my choices in dating and friends, I will stay in my crypt – sleeping. Great, informative video – thanks!

  32. u r beautiful what is your view about porn addiction?
    waiting for your reply…
    Manny singh

  33. Hi Autumn! I really needed this video ^-^ I've been relapsing almost EVERYday…yes even on Christmas Eve (today)…I really hope I become as strong as you. I do have to say even though I am angry and upset when I relapse into self harm when I look back at how it's been every single day…I'm scared…

  34. Brilliant video with a clear deconstruction of the topic. Sharing this to help others!

    Also, is it just me, or does this lady look like the current lead singer of Nightwish?

  35. I relapsed with cutting three days ago

  36. This is so helpful thank you πŸ™‚ p.s did anyone tell you that you look like Amy Lee from evanescence? Stunning! πŸ™‚

  37. I'm struggling with a self harm relapse that's been going on for a few months now

  38. You look strangely like my mother a bit extremely strangely but I honestly cant tell if you are a girl or a guy sadly putting me in a limbo feeling you even have similar hair but my mother was a ginger

  39. You look like my biological mom

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