Dealing with Parents Expectations

Dealing with Parents Expectations

how do I just like how do I tell my friends like I just want to go do for 18 months and I’ve been getting a like all these of like just go do an explorer so what I want you to get the same job after college is everything just tell them yeah you’re a big boy it’s time okay okay I mean really I understand listen easy for me to say because your dad might punch you in there out right like I get it yeah but yeah here’s what’s interesting about a lot of my advice it’s black and white like you know your parents they’re clearly your signals and your nuances haven’t worked because they continue to want it you to go down that path they are not responding to you they’re responding to what they grew up with and what they believe religiously right yeah so so that means that that means the soft way of like hey maybe or like like them we’re like that’s not working right am i right I’m asking you yeah yeah that’s color I keep getting these lectures and all that it’s time for you to lecture your parents back okay what am I going to be right yeah let me promise you one thing you really really don’t want to be 47 and hate your parents okay because I promise you you’re not actually hitting your parents you’re hating yourself for not having the balls to do it weirdo you want me to come over and have the talk with you that’s very great but yeah you think you got okay yeah yeah I’ll give them a call right after this you call them right now and tweeny hell when not you want I’m going to literally have to sense Christmas I’m doing everything I’m gonna have you Bob you’re gonna bother you the rest of the day I want listen while we’re like well let me pump you up a little bit more I will be your corner manner you start with mom and dad I’ll erm ahh more dad whoever yet I love you I love you yeah I’m 23 years old 23 years old once I’m done with it I did this for you now I have to do something for myself it’s high-risk high-reward but when you’re 23 that’s what you do because I’m not going to be able to do this when I’m 47 because it’s not going to be practical it is practical mom and dad from you for 18 months to just go and do and discover myself I’ve been doing the thing for you my whole life it’s time that I do something for me and if you can’t support me in that that’s fine I prefer you do but I’ve got to do this as a man okay yeah you don’t sound pumped enough me uh what are you scared of our talk me help me I’m not letting this is why I’m doing the Darin show because the old show I would have done her tweet I would have answered it I would have felt great and then you wouldn’t have done it and I should feel like I almost got you there but I’m telling you right now I don’t think you’re going to do it and if you’re gonna do it you’re gonna do it half-assed so help me here while you listen I’m on your team so help me here understand what you’re scared tell me how much nice okay yeah okay so for me like like just because like no like well pedigree and like education and like they’ve set like the sacrifice like having a fake job so I can do what I want like I don’t want to like disappoint me hey let me help you here disappoint for 18 months and then you make them feel good again burger I don’t just tell them tell them listen I love me for I mean you’re appreciative and you love your parents tell them the truth start with that I don’t want to like either your parents love you and will respond to you or they love you but they’re so deep into structure and it’s been their whole religion or whole life that they’re incapable even though they love you to break through and see it a different way the problem is it’s your fucking life and it’s going to end up one way or the other Wow yeah that’s broke through era like like like it’s nothing in there right like you just got to tell them like I don’t want to let you down and just remind them it’s only 18 months tell them for the next fucking 60 years you can do the same thing that makes them feel great you’re needing two months can they give you 18 months all you want to think two months yeah yeah I wrote down the date November 12 2018 that’s kind of fucking bullshit contract give them give yourself a few months and then show them okay are you doing now yep I’m gonna hang up and call right now help me understand who is going to be more critical who do you think’s more who more scared of this move my mom okay just go there man just like like just texting mom I love you with all my heart I’m so thankful for your sacrifices all I need is 18 months I can’t live with this regret in like these 40s or 50s because I’m going to crack and I’m going to be a broken man I need 18 months and I promise you if I can’t get traction I’ll go wherever the hell you want me to work yeah yeah that’s good uh give them a call right now and I’ll treat you in 20 minutes give it to me make me a video I want the video I want to see your face I don’t the words or I love your luck do it alright [Music] 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Comments (63)

  1. That's going to leave a mark.

  2. I really hope he did it! For anyone reading this who is in the same situation, just do it! I was in the same position back in January. I straight up told my parents that I was dropping out of college because taking a "business" class was a load of horse shit, a waste of time, & doesn't map to the real world of business. After that I worked on building my social media (especially YouTube) & am still doing it. I'm now about to move to Los Angeles to chase my dreams. The crazy thing is, I moved out 2 weeks ago, got my car broken into, got everything stolen, had to come back. Now I'm adjusting my plans & I'm still leaving with zero fears.. I can't be 30 and filled with regret. One fucking life my friends! Take advantage of it RIGHT NOW ๐Ÿ’ฅ๐Ÿ“ฒ๐ŸŒ‡๐Ÿ’ธ

  3. And? What happened??

  4. Great advice Gary. Growing up Indian it's all through the parents way and through their routines. It's great to hear something relatable. growing for the better you!!! I'm working my butt off for me!! Learn my ways

  5. That's cool, how can I call in? Gary

  6. God, you're so fucking passionate Gary. It felt like you were speaking to me

  7. How can I bring value to Gary, teamgaryvee, Vaynermedia if I don't know how to do LITERALLY anything other than fitness and helping people one to one?
    My expectations are that I get a response to this to bring valueโค๏ธ

  8. Gary you are just an incredible person! Love it!

  9. I don't have the balls to do something like this

  10. Thanks Gary, this medic gonna leave the hospital for a guitar. I wish you all the cafรฉ de Guatemala para la maรฑana.

  11. His father disliked

  12. if he did it big ups to him and you gary for the incredible pep talk

  13. Thank you, Gary. I did this last weekend. Took me till age 34…

  14. How can I call you? I really need that, I cant wait those 6 wekks until you answer one of my messages or sth but I really need to know what to do right now, pls help me

  15. How did it work out for him?

  16. The greatest thing a parent can do for their kids is take them to the door and say: Go. Get the fuck out of here. Go explore for the next 18 months but intelligently. Fuck up smartly. And learn! My arms and this door will be always open to you. But go out and fucking live!

  17. ๐Ÿ‘
    ๐ˆ๐ง๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  / ๐‚๐ซ๐ž๐๐ข๐ญ ๐‚๐š๐ซ๐๐ฌ / ๐Œ๐š๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  $ ๐…๐จ๐ซ ๐’๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐‚๐ก๐š๐ง๐ง๐ž๐ฅ
    ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ—๐ŸŽ/๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ ๐’๐ฎ๐›๐ฌ๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐›๐ž๐ซ ๐†๐จ๐š๐ฅ

  18. Only his parents disliked

  19. Growing up with Indian parents, I can definitely relate! High-risk-High reward.

  20. Is the advice applicable to me. I'm 18 years old and don't want to study in college. Thanks

  21. I reached a faze where I have to choose parents lifestyle or what they want and their acceptance or my passion and my happiness, and I am really cornered and confused, somebody pls help.

  22. I had an argument with my mum and I had to come to back to this. love you man, thanks a lot, I feel much better now

  23. How wasnโ€™t I subscribed???

  24. Thank you Gary – I needed that

  25. So true my parents

  26. Well maybe parents should not putting their expectation on there kids let them have their own expectationt that what i.m going to do when I become a parent

  27. @askgaryvee,

    Y'all should do a follow up on this, its been 12 months. How's the guy doing? Did he send you a video?

  28. Im 22, i just told my parents today that i didnt want to be a doctor anymore. I have to pay for my own school now, but i know i gotta hustle and work hard. And im gonna prove then wrong that ill be successful. Even thought its harder, i know its gonna be worth it. Thank you Gary and the AskGaryVee team, i watched this so many times

  29. "You're not hating your parents. You're hating yourself for not having the balls to do it."

  30. Can I have a similar mindset at 18 years old? Considering I have a good income source through my Marketing Agency.

  31. I wish I had done this 10 years back.

  32. Need an update on this

  33. So basically im 18 years old, working on some projects, got selected as one of top 10 most prospective teenagers in our country, but im really REALLY struggling with school. And i think i could use that 8 hours of schooling time to work more effectively (im sleeping for 2 h per day just do the work needed for my projects), but my parents won't let me drop out… Any suggestions? Btw i LOVE u ๐Ÿ™‚

  34. oh damn its almost November. I hope it all worked out๐Ÿ˜จ

  35. Wow…..i needed to hear this bad..

  36. ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

  37. I know a thing or two about family expectations….. My brother and I are the only adult males in the family (on our moms side) who arent either a Doctor or a Lawyer of some kind. Makes us feel like failures to be honest. All of my uncle's are surgeons, dentists, lawyers etc. My Grandfather has 5 brothers, ALL of them are lawyers, including him. He recently sold a 180,000 acre ranch….He didnt even farm, it was just an investment…. Also, for whatever reason, all of his brothers are blind. Needless to say, the expectations for my brother and I are almost impossibly high…. Kinda sad when the only thing in life my brother and I are more successful at than our family members is that we are not going blind… not yet atleast…. The doctors are always worried we will though when we tell them all 5 of our great uncles are blind. I mean seriously though, what are the odds? All 5 of them blind lawyers? Thats almost unbelieveable, like the start to some bad bar joke, but im 100% serious.

  38. You can see Garyโ€™s passion, he is really seeing this guy archieving all his dreams vs. Having a shitty life, he knows he has just a few minutes to save DECADES of suffering!!!!!!!

  39. Bro gaty vee my biggest inspiration please help us we indians need you i think you are the who can change our india parent mind sets

  40. Does someone know the Twitter of this dude that Gary spoke to? @Garyvee #garyvee

  41. im 22 completed my software engineering degree and after 6 month job as a programmer have decided to switch career to animations . right now taking classes and creating profile . i was really depressed as when i announced this decision everyone was disappointed , said i wasted my degree . its really hard to explain someone especially when they dont know the current market . Everyone is thinking im gonna become a hippie doing nothing selling one or two pieces and gonna stay financially broken all my life. your video helped me realize i gotta face this opposition as im doing something never done in my family before . im gonna show them IA !!!

  42. Donโ€™t feel entitled to your parents approval or financial retaliations, is not their obligation to support your higher education anyways.
    Is your life experience, use it wisely and learn.
    It is only from your failures that youโ€™ll learn.
    Donโ€™t be scared to face the beast (the world).
    Youโ€™re amazing! A manifestation of the most high. Envision, Plan and execute it. Arel Sprite

  43. Iโ€™m listening to this before telling my parents that Iโ€™m moving out. Iโ€™m 23 but this is a stepping stone toward my happiness.

  44. as someone who watched this vid awhile back, and had the talk with my own parents, I genuinely hope this dude had the courage to follow gary's advice. I'm 25, graduated college last june, and about to move to LA because i said i need to be able to go and figure myself out. It took me awhile to have the conversation with them, but it really brought us closer together because they respected where I was coming from. Don't hold back man, go do your thing

  45. Wish I'd heard this earlier, but I finally did. Thanks Gary

  46. Why 18 months I need more

  47. Trying pulling that with asian parents… They don't call it Tiger Parenting for nothing. If unsuccessful, you'll get mauled

  48. My 14 year old son is an amazing bass player, I tell him all the time to push that, because I know he has talent and it is hid dream. We are also working on real estate investment strategies where he can play and not have to worry as much about income. I am trying to give him advice that my mother didn't give to me. I underdtand, because it was all she knew was working for hourly wage.

  49. fOllow up??? DId he do it??

  50. If my daughter would say that at 23, I would be so proud of her and support her..

  51. One thing is for sure

    Parents can't feel their child especially who are Indian

    So better is make your own way without expecting that parents can feel us !

  52. Home boy we gotta see the video

  53. wow Gary Vee you just open my life, with your words thxs๐Ÿ˜ญ I spend the whole week watching your videos and I start to change my mind about life….
    kisses from Switzerland โฃ๏ธ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ญ

  54. I'm 19 and live with my dad still, I worked on balancing college and work and I got absolutely nowhere in my first semester and accomplished nothing. What I really want to do is just work for this year so I can move on and once I have some finances and consistency I'd like to work on trying to go back to college or maybe a trade school because honestly, I don't feel like college is for me… but for my parents, it feels like I'm doing it for them and not me. It's really hard to talk to my dad about it, my mother understands and supports my decisions to focus on moving out and going from there but my dad would damn near disown me if I told him how I felt about college and that I want to take the rest of this year to move out. It's tough man

  55. I confronted my parents and now I grew a third ball

  56. ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š

  57. Indian parents suck

  58. This๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ #Riverfloww

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