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  1. Thank you for this video, it was really helpful!

  2. Thank you so much for this! One of the things that cause meltdowns for me is too much chaotic noise. I have 3 small children so this is unavoidable. I am considering noise cancelling headphones or ear phones. Was wondering if you or anyone here have ones that work great for you and would recommend? Thank you! 😊

  3. Thank you for sharing your experiences and making this video – so glad you did!

  4. Hey Ella!
    You have no idea how much I needed this video.
    I have had two (or three? Time is weird atm) meltdowns this week after going a month or so without any. One was really frustratingly long, I was anxious about a doctor's appointment (even though it was just a check-up with my psychiatrist) and had cramps and somehow ended up curled up on my bed trying to scream instead of hitting myself. Ended up hitting myself anyway. A second one was because I went to choir by bus but I got so easily overstimulated that I had to hide in the bathroom to calm down and thankfully I had my favourite chewigem nacklace with me, which helped. Overall, the entire week I had no energy to begin with, so overwhelming things became like 9 times more overwhelming.
    I found that phoning with my girlfriend helps a lot. She makes me laugh often so that helps.
    Have a lovely weekend and again, thanks for talking about this!

  5. Hi Ella! Love this video! Some of my family and friends guilt trip me post meltdown. How can I get them to stop???

  6. Thank you for your video ! i'm not diagnosed yet, it's on the way, but meltdowns are a big part of my history, and yours look like mines ! So it's really pleasant to hear you, i feel less lonely now 🙂

  7. This is a fantastic video Ella and much needed/very timely.  I think that there is a lot of shame that autistic people experience around meltdowns and this video is a great help in pushing past that.

  8. Thank you for this video ❤

  9. I love you so much.

  10. thank you for this video my problemis im not allowed to beloud in the quiet room and i dont always get to the quiet room at college before meltdown so this one is a hard one .how do your kids tell teachers and teaching assistants ?

  11. Thank you for this. You are very inspiring 🙂

  12. I hit myself or bang my head against the wall….😒

  13. Hi. It´s already November, but I hope that my translation into Spanish still helps some people. I just chose this one by chance, without minding the date. I have been learning and translating things on Asperger, Autism, the theory of mind, etc. this month. Time to have a break on the subject.
    I like the video and find it useful.

  14. Yes fixating and amplifying things! I had really bad meltdowns as a kid. (I suspect being on the spectrum.) they were also called tantrums. Of course people, myself included, thought I'd outgrow them. Obviously not, it is hard and shameful. I still don't know what I have, officially, and so it makes things tricky. Not quite sure how to manage things anymore.

  15. For awhile I had little to no massive meltdowns…pregnancy triggered a lot of meltdowns, resembling those I experienced as a child. Since baby #2 I've been having monthly meltdowns, which is a ton more than before…like massive, hitting myself meltdowns. Mini meltdowns occur…we'll probably too often to know.

  16. Well, after translating this video for Spanish speakers and waiting for the text to be 'approved' there´s finally no reference to that ''contribution''.
    We are used to be underrated or totally ignored in our business. But at least we get paid.
    But this is a free help, on my own initiative; as some other videos dedicated to autism, asperger and research in my channel. If you don´t receive a copyright warning for translating this kind of content you are ignored.
    And it´s a bad thing to be just ignored, right? Especially when you try to help others. I´m not talking about ungratefulness, but something worst: the fact of not knowing if I´m just wasting time and effort trying to help with something that, and after, all nobody seems to need.

  17. It happende to me =( lost control and smashed things. I thought I was crazy, and that I was the worst person ever. I managed to tune them down, with difficulty, but as I grew up (after my 28th birthday, maybe) I never smashed anything. When I found out what it really was, I felt releaved. I felt Like I could forgive myself for my meltdowns. And It helped a lot with the next ones. Now I can identify them an do what I need to do to calm myselfdown.

  18. Ella you are terrific. I'm NT and have friends on each end of the spectrum. I've just found your channel. It's great.

  19. This video is priceless 💛
    One thing, I definitely need to find a safe place during a meltdown but does anyone have the issue of becoming 'stuck' in the safe place?
    I have to be real careful because I have been stuck in public toilets and under beds etc for long periods of time and sometimes need help getting out.
    I think it is to do with not having a distraction to break the meltdown cycling around continually in my body and mind.
    It can be a fine line to not make things worse.
    Does this happen to anyone else?

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