ArticlesBlog Dealing With a Mean Child | CloudMom August 28, 201921 Related posts: Dealing With Mean Kids: Meanness vs Bullying | CloudMom Related tags : cloud mom cloudmom dealing with a mean child dealing with a mean kid i have a mean kid mean child Melissa Lawrence my kid is the bully why is my child one of the mean kids why is my kid mean Post navigation Previous Article The search is on for the Church Street Marketplace’s holiday tree Next Article Song About Sadness for KIDS | Children Dealing with Grief | Music for Toddlers | Kids Rock Music Comments (21) April 28, 2014 at 3:25 pm I think it was what she needed to "get it" since it was a second offense and the first attempt to correct it didn't work out the way you'd hoped. Reply April 28, 2014 at 3:49 pm I love the way that you handled the situation, it was the right thing to do Reply April 28, 2014 at 5:13 pm Since it was the second time your correct! Your daughter needs to know, it's not okay to say such things! Reply April 28, 2014 at 5:39 pm I think that shows real strength of character and your kids will be so well off for it. They will also respect you immensely. I hope I have the balls to discipline my kids like that when the time comes 🙂 Reply April 28, 2014 at 6:20 pm i think it was right what you did! Reply April 28, 2014 at 6:53 pm Definitely the right thing to do. Reply April 28, 2014 at 8:41 pm I'm really impressed at the hard line you took. My daughter isn't old enough for me to worry about addressing these issues yet so I'm not sure how I would have acted. However, I'm more interested in understanding why your daughter said it? Was she copying something that someone else said to her at school? I.e. Maybe she argued with someone and they said 'you're not my friend anymore' and she was kind of copying them. I would want to know whether she was trying to provoke a certain reaction from her sister? Maybe I'm over thinking it – not sure how kids their age rationalise things! Such an interesting subject though – food for thought indeed. Reply April 29, 2014 at 4:54 am I am impressed! I would have loved to do it but I probably would have caved and came back to get the second child. I think you did the right thing Reply April 29, 2014 at 5:40 am But… Did you ask her, WHY did she say that? Reply April 29, 2014 at 6:01 am That's right. Sometimes, when they hit other children I let them feel what they have done. I am a big believer of the golden rule 🙂 I don't think that's mean, I just want them to learn what's right and wrong. thanks Melissa for posting very helpful videos!! Reply April 29, 2014 at 7:14 am you are so right on the money. good mum to do this it has given your child the message you mean business when they say hurtful things. Maybe you can get frozen out on dvd or buy it at a later date once the child has processed it a bit longer Reply April 29, 2014 at 11:30 am I would have caved in, you did a right though! Props to you! Reply April 30, 2014 at 9:15 am You just did the right thing.. Thanks for the tip Reply April 30, 2014 at 12:39 pm I think you did the right thing for your child. My daughter who is 3 says to her Dad all the time, "I don't love you." – especially when he's asking her to do something she doesn't want to.I hate hearing her say that but luckily he doesn't take it personally at all and just says, "well that's too bad, because I still love you." and then makes sure she still does what she needs to do. I try to get her to think about how she would feel if someone said to her that they don't love her, and she says, "I'd feel sad." She still says it too him all the time but I'm grateful that he doesn't loose his cool. I don't know if it's the right thing to do or not but it's what I feel is appropriate for her right now. Reply April 30, 2014 at 9:00 pm I think it was the right thing. I wasn't raised with some of my sisters. It's 4 of us sisters and the two older ones were with my parent and me and younger sister were with my grandmother. And I told something similar to one of my older sister. And it can scar you for life and ruin a sister sister relationship. Reply May 3, 2014 at 6:48 am I think you done the rat think Reply July 22, 2014 at 8:57 pm I am curious what you said to her the first time she said it? I am not opposed to how you handled it. For me personally, I like to try and talk to my kids about it first and explain to them that I did not appreciate what they did/said. And then if they continue, then I take further action. Do you do that too for the first time or go straight into taking away her trip to the movies? Reply August 6, 2014 at 8:20 pm I would have explained that she did wrong, and then done a timeout. I would have still taken her to the movie though. I feel that it was slightly overboard. But she isn't my child and it seemed to work… Reply April 29, 2015 at 3:20 am It didn't help me at ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙁 Reply March 22, 2016 at 5:11 pm Children do not understand connection between missing a movie and saying something mean. Reply June 6, 2018 at 7:41 pm You're a great Mum. Reply Comment here Cancel reply Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.