dealing with a break up ft dodie

dealing with a break up ft dodie

We’ve all been there before: you’re in love, you think everything’s going great and then… Um, we have to break up. Well, you just lost a fan. If you found yourself in this situation, I know how you feel. Sorry You can’t eat, you can’t sleep, all you can do is cry, think about your ex, what went wrong And why you’re such an unlovable piece of shit But listen to me: you’re going to be okay. Not now, not anytime soon; but, eventually, and with the help of friends, friends, friends, friends, friends, friends. You need your support network right now more than ever. So call your friends or family and ask them to come over, or just get on the phone to talk or schedule a lunch or dinner or whatever. You’re gonna have a lot of free time on your schedule between all the crying and crying that you’re doing, and that’s when you want to lean on the people who love you; a lot. Because that’s an opportunity to process this relationship without all the negative spiraling that you’re bound to do in your own time because your support network is gonna say really supportive things that you won’t say to yourself. Things like: “He wasn’t right for you. I didn’t say anything at the time, but you know we all knew you guys weren’t a great match.” “You’re amazing you’re gonna find someone who understands you and appreciates you and wants to work it out.” “I love you. I’m so sorry this is happening.” “Do you want some tea?” When you’re not leaning on your friends, pick up old or new hobbies. You’re gonna have a lot of free time on your hands, as I mentioned, and a very active anxious mind to occupy and I please encourage you to not make drinking, smoking, or any other unhealthy form of escapism a hobby. Because I have done that before and it just prolongs your grieving process gives you a lot of bad tweets. And, you know, just doesn’t make you feel very good so pick up something that you love but you haven’t tried it in a while, or something that you’ve always wanted to try. With my blindside breakup, I finally decided, like, I’m gonna try to cope with this in a very healthy way. And, over the last month I read, like, 30 books I spent 40 hours getting reacquainted with drawing and poetry, meditated twice a day for 20 minutes, took a weekly yoga class, journaled a fuck ton, time saw two therapists and a life coach; Yeah, I was, it was a lot. But, that said, I do know that this breakup is gonna be all you think about all the time so try to understand what you’re going through. And, if possible, embrace it because chemically, your brain is going through the same withdrawal process as a cocaine addict. This is why it hurts so bad *aaaahhhAaaaaAHAHAhhAAAA* Oh God, oh Grieving and crying suck ass, but they’re a very natural part of the process. And I know this is not what anyone wants to hear right now, it’s not what I wanted to hear, but try to take this opportunity as something good to transform yourself. You know, my friend told me to, like, try to make this breakup the best thing that ever happened to me. And, I know, you like hate them for saying it, but at the same time if you try to work towards making that statement true you take a lot of actions in your life that are really healthy and good for you, because you get to choose how to handle this breakup, and how you’re gonna transform from it. So, are you gonna be a victim and be like really sad? Longer than necessary, because grieving is important; Or, are you gonna get the best revenge possible by just leveling the fuck up as a person and really empowering yourself and being the most successful greatest version of yourself possible? I’m Anna Akana. I’m very sorry that you’re hurting and also if you do not know Dodie. Please check her out She’s an amazing singer/songwriter and an advocate of mental health awareness Her book is really great for those of you who have depression. It helped me a lot, and also helped me with my breakup. She’s just fantastic, and if you need a good cry listen to her song ‘6/10.’ which I love. All right, stay right here for a sponsored message. *in a sad voice* I wanna say thank you to Squarespace for sponsoring today’s episode. Squarespace offers beautiful award-winning templates not to mention an all-in-one platform, so there’s like no installs, patches, or upgrades ever. They also have 24-hour customer service if you’re, like, really sad in the middle of the night and you just need someone to talk to you, and they offer a simple and unique setup experience if you don’t have a domain. I don’t have a domain. They’re gonna for any kind of website: like if you’re an artist or photographer, you’re looking for the love of your life, still like maybe they’re still out there I hope they really are. You can go to and start your free trial today. And you can use the offer code anna up for 10% off at checkout.

Comments (100)

  1. Lmao I just don’t get over them because no one wants to date me OOF

  2. Yep lots of walking really helps

  3. Dodie is adorable.

  4. 6/10 is the best song i have it in every playlist on spotify i love love it

  5. I recently just broke up with someone I never even dated 😢

  6. my boyfriend and i just broke up. i need a hug

  7. dodieeee💛💛💛

  8. Why do I kind of ship Anna and Dodie? I mean they’re both bicons. What would their ship name even be??? Doda? Annie?

  9. i have never gone through a breakup and yet here i am

  10. this was very helpful considering today's terrible events

  11. I'm just curious how poor Brad feels about, and taking this, too.

  12. dodiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeee….love you…you too anna!!

  13. also, can i just address: its even more difficult to get over a break up when both of yall have been together for so long and know each other so well. youve talked about marriage and kids and met parents…and then everything fall apart literally breaks you because youve lost your person…..just saying, i still miss him and he misses me… i guess it was just wrong timing..idk

  14. I'm actually just here for Dodie. I've never even been in a relationship.

  15. "we've all been there"
    i haven't

  16. Sadly i dont have friends. 😔

  17. "We've all been there before"

    Me: well not if you've never dated, ey! 😄😉


  18. I'm watching this 6+ months after my first break up with my ex boyfriend of 4 1/2 years and I can say that I'm fine again. And that I'm glad that I've left this stage behind and that you will too 💖

  19. This was so helpful. Thanks 🙂

  20. how do you stop yourself from feeling guilty for trying to move on and be happy without them???? Every time I try to move on, i feel like I’m betraying them by not feeling about them the way they deserve

  21. My person left me i dont have friends

  22. Love the piece where you say
    Your going to be okay, not now, not anytime soon
    I burst into laughter only because it's so true 😂

  23. Why don’t Dodie & Anna give it a shot?

  24. My gf just broke up with me 2 days ago. 😭

  25. What if my ex was my best friend and my family?

  26. Dodie is such a sweetheart.

  27. My bf broke up with me today so this is very helpful thank you so much

  28. My lesbian girlfriend broke up with me today. Her mother and she had a talk. Like she came all up on me saying she loved me. She's blaming me for her being a lesbian. 😒😭🙄

  29. What if I dont have friends friends friendsfriendsfriends.. friends

  30. Blue took me here….thank you

  31. I love Dodie's part

  32. Blue brought me here

  33. Have a good sob session …its the best …haha

  34. And what if I don’t have any family or friends? No support network and you relationship got you to a place where you don’t value yourself and have depression and don’t know how to cope on being by yourself? No good job , no money no house?

  35. Here from Blue Fever

  36. My ex boyfriend said literally not long ago, that he wants to stay "friends" and not lose me…even though the original reason we broke up was his fear of abandonment. LOL k bro..go fill that hole in your soul elsewhere

  37. This is kinda sad for me bc im an anna akana fan and my ex introduced me to dodie T-T
    How can youtube serve me up such topical videos??

  38. How do you do the opposite of this? Break up with Someone

  39. At least those ppl know ppl who loves them a lot to lean on them .. at least they dared to be jn a relationship n someone fell in love with them.

  40. Dodie! My inspirations are friends!

  41. I have no friends and my family lives far away

  42. bookmarking this for my friends or myself in the future just in case

  43. My two bisexual queens 💓💜💙

  44. The friend .. I love her lol

  45. I haven’t cried.. I’ve just been throwing up… but I walked away he cheated

  46. its been 6 months and im still crying, i dont have friends. can somebody be my friend.

  47. What if I don't have a support network?

  48. literally my two favorite youtubers

  49. Can someone pls talk to me? I’m rlly hurting…
    sc @ tamryn_clarke

  50. Cried at the sponsored message

  51. I love you, i needed this.

  52. I didn’t know you knew Dodie THATS SO COOOOL

  53. Dat last part of sponsored msg really made me feel good

  54. Ok thanks, i'm gonna continue reading sad sht on tumblr now

  55. well

    you just lost a fan

  56. „We’ve all been there“

    Right, sure * laughs hysterical *

    But can I still have six Dodies please, cause like, I need

  57. why am i watching this i haven't even had a relationship before lol

  58. Wow… my FBI agent really cares about me. Thanks dude, I needed this.

  59. 0:00 Anna: We've all been there before!
    Me: Nope!

  60. im the one that broke up with the person but i mean he was to scared to iven hold my hand he also avoided me plus i was confused of my sexuality so like….

  61. I don’t even know why I’m watching this… I’ve been single my whole life.

  62. Codie has the most relaxing voice ever I swear

  63. I've often found that even when I'm the one breaking up with someone that I still go through the whole grieving process 🙁

  64. …what if you don’t have friends

  65. How have I never seen this before


  67. Post breakup Anna: goes through withdrawl

    Cocaine addict: first time?

  68. answer to life’s questions:

    dodie clark everybodyyy

  69. In two years time we could try it again since school is a barrier between us and it's hard.

  70. Dodies voice is so soft and soothing.

  71. my boyfriend just broke up with me an hour ago and this popped up in my recommendation…

  72. how to get over a break up: get yourself a dodie clark

  73. This is so positive, I love this

  74. Why did I find two of my favorites only a year later😭

  75. 0:34 It's either you have a lot of friends
    Or your friend duplicated for you to have more friends. Dedication right there.

  76. Lol see I knew this but my support network fell apart and I started a new school year at a new school right around when my year long relationship crashed and burned

  77. I feel like doodie would make a beautiful pregnant lady, like most pregnant ppl are ugly but doodie

  78. I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤️

  79. I cried for two days and now I’m just over it

  80. Hahaha… cant cry about a breakup if your single

  81. your video's are really helping me rn

  82. wow, i wonder what i will do when i get my heart broken, because i have:
    – no friends
    – no money for therpists or classes
    – basically nobody to talk to

    Well I guess I'll just have to deal with it by myself, hahaha.

  83. What about when you know your about to break up? Like… pre breakup?

  84. No, we haven’t all been through it before.

  85. What if you don’t have friends

  86. Not making Dodie’s picture Dodie yellow was a sin


  88. so does anyone have advice for how to break up with someone who you still care about but not romantically? asking for a friend 🤪

  89. Bold of you to assume that I was ever in a relationship

  90. My relationships were too superficial and shallow that I never cared about break ups. I was always the one to end it. But what's been more painful for me is to find out your crush doesn't like you back, it takes me ages to get over them

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