6 Lessons Learned from Starting a Business | Entrepreneur Tips

6 Lessons Learned from Starting a Business | Entrepreneur Tips

Hey everyone, welcome back to Lavendaire. Previously, I uploaded a video on
how I started my business. If you haven’t seen it yet, you can watch it
in the card up there. Basically, at the end of the video I asked if you guys wanted more business-related content and a lot of you wanted to hear my
lessons learned from business. So today I’m going to share six lessons that
I’ve learned from starting a business. This is just entrepreneurship lessons, but I feel like they could also be applied
to any other area of life. They’re very universal, I would say. The first lesson I learned from starting a business is: There will always be obstacles. There’s always going to be a challenge. There’s always opportunities for you to get stuck. But the lesson here is: There is always a way. There’s always a way, whether it’s through
the challenge or around it, or somehow, there is a way to figure it out. A lot of people let themselves get stuck
once they meet a challenge where they’re like, “I don’t know what to do.” That “I don’t know what to do” makes them not know what next steps to take, and then they just end up not taking any steps at all. Then it’s like their growth is stunted, because they’re stuck at that obstacle. And so what I’ve learned is: There is always, always a way through
your obstacles and challenges. You just have to have that mindset like,
“I’m going to find a way. I’m going to find a way through this,
no matter what it takes.” And the great Marie Forleo says,
“Everything is figureoutable.” That’s actually the name of her new book:
Everything is Figureoutable. That is such a good business mantra, because once you have that mindset that
everything is figureoutable, then your brain kind of opens up to more possibilities, and then you start to get more creative, trying to figure out your way around things. At the end of the day, any action is better than no action. So just do something, take any action. Try to figure something out. Try to learn something new or ask someone for help. Or just see if you can look at your problem from a new perspective or a new angle. There’s just always a way. There’s always a way, but you just have to
be committed to finding that way. The second lesson is the realization that nobody knows what they’re doing,
especially in the beginning. Everyone starts off with a lot of uncertainty, a lot of questions, a lot of unknowns. Basically, entrepreneurship is: You learn as you go, and that’s just the way it is. That’s the way of life, honestly. When you’re young and you’re looking
at people who are successful, you think that they knew it all, or they had it figured out in the beginning and they just knew what steps to take. But in reality, nobody knows what they’re doing. No one really knows all the steps that
they have to take to get to their goal. They only know maybe the first couple steps. So it really is – you know,
take a couple steps, figure it out, and then the next steps will reveal
themselves to you in time. It’s just a learning process, and you’re going
to make a lot of mistakes. But essentially, experience is your greatest teacher. There is no better way to learn than to just do the thing
and have that experience, and you’ll make mistakes or you’ll succeed. Whatever it is, that experience will teach you and you’ll use that knowledge to keep going
and keep pushing forward. So with time, you will gain more experience
and you will learn as you go. By the way, I want to thank Skillshare for
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I’ve learned in business is: Don’t compare yourself to others. This is honestly advice for business and for life
because it applies to everyone. Don’t compare yourself to others. I know that it is so easy to see what
other people are doing, especially on social media, see what other people or other businesses are doing,
and compare yourself to that. But the reality is: You are unique. You have a unique set of skills and
resources and strengths that is different from anyone else doing business. So you have to hone in and use your strengths, use your resources, use what you got,
and use your voice. You really have to hone in on who you are, what you do best, and do your best
not to be affected negatively by comparing yourself to other people or
other businesses, because people are going to do what they do, but you don’t have to feel like you’re in a competition. You don’t have to feel like you’re racing
against each other. You are in your own lane, in your own path. So, there is a flip side to this where it can be beneficial to see what other people in your industry are doing or people in other industries are doing so you can get inspiration and learn from them. Maybe you want to see other people’s mistakes
and learn from their lessons, or you may be just inspired or motivated
by what you see out there. That is totally okay. It’s totally great to look at other people
and then learn from them. Use it for positivity and good. The thing you should not do is to let comparison spiral you down into a negative loop, because essentially, if you compare yourself and you feel bad about yourself after comparison, it reveals your insecurity, because if you weren’t insecure about yourself
or your business, then seeing what other people are doing
wouldn’t affect you emotionally. It wouldn’t matter, and plus: it would even
motivate or inspire you. So if you notice yourself feeling negative about it, then just don’t compare yourself. Don’t look at it and try to just focus on what you got. Another way you can look at this is: You don’t want to compare your Chapter 1
to someone else’s Chapter 20, because you might be seeing someone who is much ahead in their business journey, and you feeling like you’re behind. You’re feeling like, “Oh my gosh, I have
so much work to do to catch up.” You don’t want to do that because if you think about it,
everyone started at zero. Everyone started somewhere. So you can’t compare your beginning to
someone else’s middle part of their journey, or even their successful part of their journey, because that’s just not a fair comparison. So don’t waste your time, focus on yourself, and hone in on your strengths and
everything that you have to offer. The next lesson I want to share about
starting a business is kind of twofold. The first part is: Don’t give up, keep going, keep things moving, keep taking action, because like I said earlier, you don’t want
an obstacle or challenge to thwart your progress and to make you stuck, because a lot of the times people just get stuck
and they give up, because they can’t figure a way through it. So just keep going no matter what. I am a firm believer that, if you just keep taking action and keep trying,
you will eventually succeed. But when I say keep trying, I don’t mean do
the same thing over and over again. I mean: Use your brain, take in feedback, and reflect on how you can improve things
and do it better next time. So it’s all about continuous learning and continuing to take action using all the knowledge and wisdom and experience that you’ve gained. As long as you just keep moving,
keep taking action, you will succeed, and you cannot be afraid of the failures
that happen in your journey. Your failures are just part of the process. They’re a way for you to learn lessons. Failures are just a learning opportunity. Don’t worry about them if they happen. Learn from them and keep going. The point is to keep going. You also have to have an awareness of
when something is not working and when it is the right time to either close that project, try something new, pivot, or start over in a new way. So “Keep going” doesn’t mean keep
trying the same thing that doesn’t work over and over again, because you know it’s all about learning. And if you something doesn’t work,
then keep trying it in a new way. Maybe your original business idea
didn’t actually pan out the way that you had hoped it would pan out,
but that’s okay. You can keep going, can start over,
you can try something new. For example: I used to run this program called
the Artist of Life Mastermind, and then later it became the Artist of Life Community. So for two or three years, I was running this
membership program that was going along with the workbook. And it came to a point where I just realized the format was not exactly working and the community was not what I had
envisioned in the beginning. And so I made the decision to close
that product down and to end it. But I still take those skills that I’ve learned and apply it to other areas like our
other Facebook groups, our online course, and also our newest
Lavendaire community on Vibely. You do have to sometimes accept that
things might not work out the way that you expect them to work out, and you might have to just close things off. But it doesn’t mean that it was a waste of
time, because everything that you gained
from that experience can be used and applied to your next venture or the next thing that you’re working on. Everything is used. Nothing is wasted. But bottom line I was trying to say is: Keep going, keep moving no matter what. The next lesson, which is lesson #5 is to
not take your failures personally. This one is easier said than done. It’s something that I had to learn over
the many, many years of my career, to not take my failures personally, because I think – I don’t know about you, but for me, I used to tie my self worth with my
success and my failure. You feel good about yourself and
you think that you’re great when you’re successful and you succeed
and you make the right choices. And then when you fail and you make mistakes, you feel like, “Oh my god, I am the worst. I’m nothing. I don’t know anything. I suck.” And it’s such a roller coaster of self confidence
and self worth, and it’s just not healthy. But what you should do in entrepreneurship, number one is: You have to accept that
failures are inevitable. They’re going to happen. You cannot avoid them, and if you’re trying to avoid failures, then you’re not going to be a very good entrepreneur, because it’s part of the process. But not only do you have to recognize that
failures are learning experiences, you also have to recognize that failures are just data. Failures are experience and data, and you have to learn to detach your
emotions from that data. It’s just information. And information doesn’t have to have
an emotional charge to it. It’s just pure information. It’s just the information that “this way doesn’t work”. So you have to learn to detach your sense of self worth from your success and your failures, because then you’ll just have much better
mental health, I promise you. It’s easier said than done, but it’s something that you have to practice doing. This is important not just for entrepreneurs,
but for everyone. Learn to detach yourself from your successes
and your failures. Take your failures as just information
to help you do better next time. Just ask yourself: What can I learn from this? What does this mean? Take your sense of self worth and your emotions
out of the equation, and just look at the information in front of you
as just information. The last lesson I want to share on starting a business
is just the reminder that no one will care about your business
as much as you do. And it might sound obvious,
but it’s something to remember, because when you start to hire employees and you start to build out your team, you might have this expectation for your team members to work really hard and care about the business as much as you do. But I’ve learned that it just naturally makes sense
that you care the most and everyone who is on your team will care either the same – if you’re lucky – or less. Definitely, most likely, they will care less
and they don’t have – They’re not you so you can’t expect them to be you. You can’t expect your team to have the
same sense of urgency that you do or have the same detailed level of care that you have, so you have to do your best. You are the leader, and then everything flows
from you under that, so you can’t be lazy. You really can’t just kick back and think,
“Oh, I have a team now. Other people are doing the work, so I can relax.” You really cannot, because you set the standard. You are the one that cares the most
about your business, so if you decided to be lazy and care less, then your team is going to be lazy and care
even less than you do as well. That’s just naturally how it works. Ultimately you have to remember that,
especially in a small business, you are the heart and the core of your business. You are the leader, you’re the one driving the ship. You are the one where everything flows out of, so you have to be on your A game and do your best. All right, that wraps it up for my
lessons learned in business. Let me know which one was your favorite,
comment down below. And in hindsight, these are honestly lessons
that can be applied to life in general. So they’re really for everyone, not just business. All right, thanks so much for watching today. And also make sure to check out the new
2020 Artist of Life Workbook. Link is down below. And I will see you next time. Love you! Bye!

Comments (67)

  1. I'm earlier than the notif bell! HAHA

  2. Wow..this is very useful ❤

  3. Only person whose notification are on in my YouTube app 😁❤

  4. Thank you for the tips! I also want to deeply thank you for the time and effort you put in your 2020 Artist of LIfe Workbook! I recently recieved it Sunday and I just wanted to CRY after reading through each and every page! ❤ ❤ Continue to FLOURISH in what you do Aileen! 🥰

  5. i m always waiting for your videos
    your videos always inspiring how to live life u r supppapp dii

  6. Thank you! ☺🤗💖

  7. Sending love to all entrepreneurs and to those who are starting now ♡♡♡♡ we can do this!!! 😀

  8. This video came perfect time, literally what I need right now ⭐👍

  9. "Keep going doesn't mean keep trying the same thing that doesn't work over and over again."

    Better than other "Motivational" Speakers.

  10. You are soo soo calming … I just love watching your videos ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  11. I love that advice about not taking failures personally.
    To be honest, I can't help doing that but it feels better to believe in that.
    In relation, comparing yourself to other people also contribute to this.
    Right now, I am not in school to pursue the career I want, but I know in time, I can achieve it, although it may not be as soon like others.

  12. My favourite is when you say that we have not to consider failures personally..I'm that woman who feels bad when making mistakes 😢 you give such useful tips 💜 love them 😍😍

  13. So true. These are the things that I am experiencing and getting through now.😂

  14. I truly love your positive thinking to the negative things

  15. This video was so good! Thank you.

  16. Hey Aileen – Great lessons shared – it's fascinating what we learn as we go through the process. Sharing is caring, it isn't about knowing so that we avoid these necessary experiences. It's more that we can be more prepared and know that it will be Ok, as well as what pitfalls to avoid while we ourselves are going through the process and our own journey's x 🙂

  17. I love the business videos because I recently started my own business and it's what I really need.

  18. very very inspired me to take my steps to success furthermore…Thanks Aileen..

    have a nice day guys..

  19. Do not compare your first chapter with someone's twentieth chapter. Love that!

  20. I love this! I love your business videos (and all videos obviously) I really liked how you were candid and gave examples about what didn't work for you and how you detached from it and moved forward!

  21. “No one knows what they’re doing” if it isn’t the truth!! That definitely applies to everything in life. We are all trying to figure it all out.

    Don’t be afraid to fail. If you fail, try again but this time it’ll be with experience.

    From a self love content creator to another; loved this video Aileen! 💜

  22. I love you, your are my inspiration 💜

  23. omg your fiddle leaf fig is so big!!! can you give a small update on your plants 🥺🌿

  24. Thank you Aileen for such a good tips.Only the one who experienced the most can talk about this. Keep doing what you do, I will always supporting you. I don't know if you read this comment huhu. But I wish you read this.

  25. Thank you so much for these tips!

  26. Amazing lessons, I’ve learnt so much. Thank you Lavendaire ✨

  27. You give such energy to keep improvement my accent 😭💞

  28. I love her voice honestly and LOVE her content <3 who else agrees?😘

  29. Vidionya baguss sekalii 😍😍
    Semangatt kak buat vidionya yaa ☺😘

  30. Thank you for this! Really got me inspired! 💕

  31. don't compare your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter20.

    I really love it !!

  32. God, I need to get to work! Thx

  33. Hello😊 Your video is on time. You're the best. Thank you for inspiration🤗 .

  34. I don't understand english. . Can you translate your vidéos to french or arabic.

  35. U r really an angle come from heaven by a baby cloud mix from love, positive and peace to inspire us all 💖luv from sis Esraa from sudan😍💗

  36. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to change your destination, you just need to change your road 😉

  37. I love these tips! I'm just dipping my toes into business with my first venture, and I couldn't agree more with treating failures as information! It's data that you can use to your advantage, learn from your mistakes! Great video! 🙂

  38. 谢谢Aileen 带给我的力量。已经关注你一年了,从今年年初偶然间关注你,就被你深深吸引和影响。也许你也是黄皮肤,也许你的价值观和我一样,所以,就像吸引力法则所说的,我们都会吸引来思维震动频率一样的人。我远在中国,但感觉你就在我身边。非常期待你的每一期视频和播客,谢谢你带给我的希望~Send you the most love 💕

  39. Thanks for all these tips, Aileen! While listening to you, all I can think is that I can apply them all with my YouTube channel – being new to the bullet journal niche yt channel. My favorite is to not compare myself to others. And I do my best to not to! 🙂

  40. That is such great advice, thank you!! ❤️😊

  41. As an aspiring entrepreneur myself, this was so helpful!!❤️

  42. All of your videos are so inspiring✨Thank you so much for changing me to a better and a more positive person😊Love you so much❤️

  43. He who has health, has hope and he who has hope, has everything.

  44. “There is always a way” 💛
    Love that first insight! Also love Marie Forleo and “Everything is Figureoutable” I’m reading her book right now.

    Thanks for the video!

  45. Big fan from India…

  46. This came at such a perfect time for me. Thx for sharing

  47. thank you soo much, Aileen❤ i feel a lot better after listening this. love u


    Thank you for always sharing your exceptional wisdom, especially the entrepreneurial advice about non-comparison, Ailyeen! We appreciate your positive light and please keep shining!

    Victory is yours,
    Largy (The AcrõGecko)

  49. I love how you view failure as data! I never thought of it that way— great lessons Aileen!! 😊💕

  50. Such excellent advice!! My favourites:
    – Do not compare your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 20
    – Failure is just data.

  51. thank you for the helpful tips by the way what's your business ?

  52. never clicked faster
    edit: i actually
    liked the class she mentioned.

  53. "You set the standard." I think that's my favorite lesson from this.

  54. I am really so grateful for you… Really thank you 😭♥️

  55. Just started my own company and this was so reassuring, thank you!!

  56. "Don't compare yourself to others" – this one is definitely the hardest but most effective skill.

    Another fantastic and insightful video, thank you so much ❤️

  57. How can we learn another language? Do you have any idea? Could you please give some tips about that…

  58. What an insightful video Aileen!!😃🙌 Your thoughts on knowing when to move on from something that isn’t working really resonated with me. Sometimes I think we all get too attached to the investment we placed in things, instead of acknowledging when they’re just not working & simply moving on to better things (hopefully with greater wisdom). 💯 But when you started talking about avoiding the tendency to tie your success to your self worth… I was literally like, 🙌”Preach Honey!!!” I really hope people take the time to assimilate that one, because that was some deep wisdom right there!💯 Thank you so much Aileen for always delivering such thoughtful content!! 🤗 I know we all truly appreciate it!! 💯💕

  59. I once compared my chapter 20 to someone’s chapter 1 and got sad 😞 sometimes people just kill it at level 1.

  60. Where’s the rice?
    I ate it.

    Where’s the soup?
    I ate it.

    Where’s you sister?
    I ate her.


  61. Thank you Aileen for sharing those lessons 💞💞 There are some that I'm applying Naturally 😄 and the other part are new to me 😊 For the Artist of Life Workbook I purchased the softcopy and printed Today 😍😍 the outcome looks so pretty because I ran out of white papers and printed part 1part with different color papers. I'm so happy eventhough it was by accident 😂 I'm so excited to start using the Workbook 😍 Send you much love from Oman 💞💞

  62. Love this!!!! Thank you so much 👌💛🙌

  63. PS. I love the art in the background. Where is it from?

  64. I literally just downloaded Marie's book yesterday! Coincidence? I dont think so 😁

  65. My favorite one was not to take your mistakes personally.

  66. Entrepreneurship is a path of life exploration. You can't make it, if you just rely on a certain skill.
    You have to be well rounded within different things and especially dealing with emotions.

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