4 Tips For Dealing with Annoying Relatives

4 Tips For Dealing with Annoying Relatives

Heya playas, it’s very rare that you’ll always
get along with your family members. You might fight with your brothers and sisters, get
annoyed by your parents or even fight with the family dog sometimes. But, in this video
I’m gonna help you learn how to handle that frustration and deal with your annoying relatives.
This is The Josh Speaks. You’re watching The Josh Speaks. The first tip is to try to pull
back if you see them doing something for attention. So for example, let’s say you have a big family
and there’s a lot of things going on. That usually means people are preoccupied, they’ve
got things on their minds and maybe the parents aren’t paying the kids enough attention. If
cases like that, it may cause one of your family members to act out for attention. They’ll
do anything they can to get the spotlight on them. Take it as a sign that they need
someone to acknowledge them and that might mean involving you in a fight or some kind
of dramatic situation just to get everyone’s attention. If you see this happening, try
your best to walk away. It’s never good to get involved in someone else’s problems especially
when it’s going to be at your own expense. The second tip is to dedicate a specific area
to being your alone space where you can spend private time. In a packed house where there’s
only so many rooms, and you’re in a small living space, you may feel like there’s nowhere
where you can be alone. I know exactly how that feels like, especially when you’re angry
with someone and you have to share a room with them, it’s like uh I’m just gonna go
over there and you’re gonna go over there? So the best thing you can do is try to scope
out a space and a time slot where there isn’t someone in that area. Even if it means having
to designate 15 minutes in the bathroom for your own alone time. And within those 15 minutes
if they’re knocking on the bathroom door, maybe try going into your hallway, on your
front steps, or even walk around the block if you can. When you’re annoyed beyond belief
by your relatives, clearing your head and distracting yourself may be exactly what you
need to refocus and get rid of your negative feelings. Tip number 3, do your best to not
lash out and say mean things. I know it can be extremely easy to want to yell, scream,
or even hit one of your relatives. When you’re asking yourself “why are they so annoying?”,
try to be more mindful in your question and think why is it that I’m so annoyed and willing
to hurt them because they make me get angry? In most cases, hurting someone else does nothing
for helping you learn to cope with your own anger. So it’s not even worth it. Plus, saying
mean things can really hurt your relatives. Keep in mind these are people that you live
with so you know them better than anyone else. Attacking them for something personal is a
low blow and can create a huge rift between you guys so that when you do need each other,
that person may not be there. And tip number 4, realize that they may also be stressed
and may be in need of someone to talk to. Keep in mind though that even though I said
that you should keep your distance is a huge difference between acting out and someone
reaching it. Take note of what’s really stressing out your relatives. Maybe they’re having a
tough time in school, they don’t really like their jobs, they’re bored at home and they
have nothing to do? Understand that no matter how much you hate them or are annoyed by them,
they’re still people at the end of the day and they’re on the same journey that you are
in learning to live with other people. What do you guys think though, do you have annoying
relatives that you have to deal with? Leave your comments below so we can talk about it.
It’s really easy to lash out at others when they bother you and very hard to understand
why they aren’t making the effort to make peace with us. But, at the end of the day,
what you need to do is, roll us your sleeves, be the bigger person and be the one that’s
going to be kind and understanding. And if you’re dealing with physical, or psychological,
emotional abuse at home, don’t ever be afraid to reach out to someone for help. Sometimes
a family counselor is exactly what’s needed to help get all the members of your family
on the exact same page so you guys can work together. As always guys, love and peace.
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Comments (100)

  1. Am new in this channel and josh a what to tell you that yuar tips help alot to me and other people thanks bro

  2. Hey guys I need help on trying to flirt with this girl that I like and she's like my really good friend,at you please give me some tips/ advice thanks

  3. Hey The girl i like does not really fully know me and we have not even talked face to face but every time we are around (close) we get very strange eye contact and One thing we have in common is that we both love to laugh.This girl isnt in my class and isnt even in the same grade as me but I want to get to know her and even ask her out.How do I get her to talk to me or how do I confront her?

  4. Don't you just HATE it when your family annoys you? Here's a better way to approach them when they piss you off.

  5. Hi Josh! I'm new to your channel and I love it! I wanted to ask you a question: I'm in a play and there is a girl there that I like. We talked a lot one day but her friend wasn't there. We haven't talked much since, but I try to when I can. I want to ask for her text so we can get to know each other more. Ever since we talked, she wears less baggy clothes, and when we talk she fiddles around and looks down at her feet a lot. Do you think she likes me? How could I subtly let her know I like her and how can I ask for her text? Thanks 🙂
    Awesome channel!

  6. Josh i like this girl but i dont know how to just talk to her.

  7. So the thing is a couple days ago my friend told me that my crush likes me but now i want to get her number but i am really shy please help out😍😍😍😍😍😭😪😪😪😪

  8. Would u do the same for step sis and brother

  9. Hey you're videos are very helpful but could you please make a video on when you ask out a girl on text and she says can we talk in person

  10. Hey @The Josh Speaks I was wonder how should I ask out this girl to this event at school? Its called the 8th grade farewell and its a pretty big deal and I really like this girl. Please help!

  11. Hey guys, I know this is off-topic to this video, but I just need help. See, in school, I have this friend named Shawn. He has these 2 girls that always follow him: Jaslyn & Renee. Me and Renee are good friends, and we often talk via Whatsapp. I remember once she told me that Shawn confessed to her before but she rejected him. Me and Shawn were relatively okay with each other, but today, for some reason, I was stupid enough that he accidentally knew that I know that he confessed to Renee before. Now  Shawn's mad and said things like, "she's such a fucking bitch" or "I never knew how much of a bitch she was until we entered middle school". He told me not to tell her that (cuz I usually tell her a lot of stuff) or I'll meet a fate worse than death. Then on the bus, we left all our friends and sat way at the back and Shawn won't stop questioning me. When I reached my stop, I lied to him that I'll tell him more tomorrow. Ugh, I don't know what to do! Because of my stupid mistake, I can tell something bad is going to happen. Renee doesn't know yet. What should I do?

  12. Josh ok this I like doesn't follow me on instagram but she follows someone that she doesn't like what does this mean

  13. thanks josh! this came out at the right time when im feeling very frustrated about my own family! keep it up!

  14. I try to talk to girls but I get nervous and get quite or just get weird and it ruins everything for me how do I keep a long conversation with a girl

  15. You've earned a sub my good man

  16. dude you're like a therapist. thanks man

  17. I hope this isn't weird but, I like your face, no homo

  18. you should be a therapist

  19. Thank you Josh ! god bless you !!
    Awesome video.

  20. For me its just none of seem to get along its like nobody listens for example i can be talking to my brother about my running an how can I improve it and when Im talking about my running he always changes the topic to his powerlifting it annoys the heck outta me how we can't talk about stuff i wanna talk about i do care about his powerlifting and i do help him out but why doesn't he return the favor by helping me out it pisses me off i know you said get some alone time from your relatives but all day we have alone time we never talk much my sister is playing her stupid computer games my brother is looking up stuff on YouTube (same thing im doing) and mom and dad are always at work it literally sucks 😒

  21. My step sister is so annoying with me and curses at my brother who is only 6. How do I deal with this?

  22. Do you have a girlfriend

  23. Yes I do I have 2

  24. What do you do if your relative is constantly pointing out what's wrong with you?

  25. I have a annoying brother 😧 but i still love him 😊

  26. I need to know how to deal with annoying sisters that do things for attention for their own selfish benefit is always fucking drama I'm tired of it it sucks to be the only guy in a house full of three girls they never shut the fuck up

  27. thanks for your help

  28. ima try to take hour advise ..i live with sum crazy ass people

  29. my cousin😣😣😣😣

  30. I have a cousin who annoys the hell out of she calls 3 or 4 times a day if don't I answer she than becomes upset and screams and screeches on my voicemail she is always assign me task and assignments and telling me that that I'm not living my life right while she is jobless homeless is like the kettle calling the pot black I have a learning difference so I tend move a little slower than normal . she has no life and very little friends because she tries to run their according to how she and her sister raised she thinks that everyone is wrong if they don't live the same way she lives she often dogs the few friends she has

  31. my mother in law brought over a roll of paper towels to use in our bathroom. I never knew our house was so dirty. ridiculous?

  32. I Punched My Sister In the Nose The She Never Talked To Me Again and that was when I was 5 and Im freaking 13 Now !?!?!?

  33. Ugh some days I wish I was the only child

  34. I was the 200th like!!!!

  35. My cousin is always jealous of me and he does whatever is possible to make me feel sad…

  36. My cousin is always jealous of me and he does whatever is possible to make me feel sad… we play online

  37. I had an Elderly Relative (God Bless Him!) who used to Repeat the Score that the Referee used to Say on the Snooker!.


  39. That's it….come on i know it's hard topic to solve it though you would add something new to solve

  40. I have a cousin that frustrates the hell out of me. She's only 4 I know that she is really young that doesn't deserve to be hated but She never leaves me alone. I hate her so much!! She's so bossy to the point that she orders me and my brothers around and when we tell her to shut up!! She says I'm the princess so u have to listen to me!!! Urrrrgghh!!! Not just that she actually bullies us by yelling at us even though we're older than her. She's really stubborn and disrespectful whenever I want personal space from her, I lock the door and guess what? She starts banging on the door and starts yelling open the door!! U are not supposed to lock the door!!! U cannot do this!!! Like who the hell is this 4 year old to boss me around?!! I told an adult about this but I guess no one believed me and no one cares. What should I do now?? I see her every Sunday as she comes over to my grandmother's house and I hate that so so much to the point I feel like I just wanna punch her in the face!!

  41. My food in the oven burning because they in the kitchen waiting to talk to me.. they're too social mannn I've been a hermit since day 1

  42. n no no
    im cousin so anoyying

  43. so
    im gonna try not to slap him

  44. So I live with 6 other people in a 3 bedroom house. I have my own room and my brother, his wife, and his two sons live in one room, and my parents are divorced but they both live here so she sleeps in the bonus room and my dad sleeps in the master. Our house is not too big as well. So my nephews are very disrespectful and all they want to do with their time is play video games. My brother and his wife say that they only get one hour a day, but in reality, they get atleast 5. Chris and Kayla(my brother and his wife) really don't punish them enough and they always accuse my mom, my dad, and I of doing things that really their kids did or even they did. I never EVER get alone time because we can't afford a lock for my bedroom and my nephews won't stop coming in my room. Their father always ignores the fact that I tell them to stop and even has come in my room while they were coming in and telling me to stop whining about them. I've even become depressed because I can't grown individually as a person and I can't even have friends over anymore. It's getting worse and they haven't even started looking for a house yet. aaaahh

  45. This was so helpful!! thank you

  46. From now on I will just be mean and beat the sh!t out of them.

  47. Ugh i myself as a kid find this helpfull

  48. My cousin is living with my mom and I , he is under probation and has drug problems, make sexual comments that make me uncomfortable, yesterday toll me to give him my car which I refuse tell me to take him to cantina, to eat or buy him shoes. I told my mother that I don't like being under the same roof as him in my mother takes his side he said that he probably will be leaving soon.😓 Sorry for my bad grammar

  49. My aunty is so annoying, so this video helped a bit. I still wish she stopped coming round to my house as often as she does

  50. two of my relations who are higher position in their job talks a lot and tries to control me……. they are my mom's mom's youngest sister's son and younger sister's son…… one of them tries to show who is the boss….. in my house…. so i fought with him as he takes too much control ….. he thinks he is the king after his dad passed away..

    another guy is also annoying as he asked me to go some where else as they are older than me and they want to talk alone

    (so five years ago i was in high school) and so were they ***** each other when i was at school and no time to talk???????
    and they want me to go away when im at home as they want to talk????

    im waiting for him to come again to my house and i will teach him a lesson so that he will never come here…

  51. I swear to god im going to rockslam my one sibling one of these days

  52. I hate my cousin. She is such a bitch. She is 5 years older than me and she acts so immature and I just wanna punch her in the face. I try my best to control myself because my mom told me to just ignore it. But at times she makes me look dumb because she think I will never get mad at her even if she annoys me.
    I don't want to be the bad person but at times I wanna kill her.

  53. Hey Josh, My family is a hateful family, and My Aunt is always have to be in the spotlight all the time, at my graduation party she did't congratulate me, all she did is sat down and did not offer to help, what should I do

  54. my younger sister roasted me online 🙁

  55. What if I hate my whole family? They seriously drive me crazy.

  56. Omigosh this helped me SOOO much! Thank you!

  57. Fuck! When I go and sit another room for own alone time my mom knock me and say come here to my relatives talkt to them don't behave like this wtf ,she say I don't talk to anyone bt when I talk those Ppl don't talk with WTF I've been with this for years WTF then relatives complain I don't talk WTF

  58. I have a sister who has not got a job, and she hasn't even applied to any company. What makes her so annoying is her personality. She is a very emosional person, and also a narcistic person(believe me or not she admitted it herself lmao). We always something to fight about. Tbh, i am a very emosional person either, so i always react badly to her behavior. I am tired of these fights that we have had. I have tried all the things you mentioned in the video, yet I havent seen any result. Fuck i mma just gtfo this house soon mehh xd

  59. I have a sibling who is so annoying, I keep waking up to he's loud music, and also waking up to he's yelling. I'm so mad at him and not only that I would classify him as a leach, he got into this little car accident, and i get people are different but people who are mortified try to get back into driving because not everyone can take you home at 9 when they have work at 3 am. And not only that he doesn't pay for the gas they waste, like my sister went to pick him up and never paid her and he is 21 and still living at home, my sister is like 1 year older and she moved out I haven't seen him but I don't think he even pays rent he buys all this expensive shit but claims to be paid 400 a month (and I don't know how the law in Washington is with minimum wage but I don't think they allow that) I don't know about you but if I was paid 400 I wouldn't blow it on an iPhone x a Apple TV, designer clothes, or an Apple Watch like he should be saving that money for something more useful than blowing it on an iPhone x, I know people who make more but decide an iPhone x isn't a good investment imo, and not only that he spends he's money on dumbass crystals he acts like he knows how crystals are and work and such but doesn't know that diamond is super fucking common. Ok so I don't like to call people who buy self care products stupid, but there's a line of things you should buy that should not be crossed, and that's where he my brother is at crossing the line like The ussr did in the aftermath of world war 2, literally the entire bathroom was empty the only things there was my toothbrush, paste, mouth wash, and some cups and he brought like 3 bags filled with things and it filled it all up I was actually mentally and physically shocked with the amount he had, also he is a YouTuber which isn't annoying because I haven't heard him but when I do I don't know if I'll be annoyed and also my little sister, when ever she watches or plays something she feels the need to commentate over every single little thing like a fucking YouTuber trying to stretch the video to ten minutes, it's so annoying mostly when you've had a bad day or had a headache and is trying to relax, so you have one lunatic with he's drum bangs and a kid who is always on helium wow what a great way to relax! And when ever I go and play something she is like "CAN WE PLAY?" And you might say don't be rude but it's every time I go and play she's like "let's play!" And I'm like no it's my time to relax. She is also super extroverted which annoys me because I'm an ambivert when I'm burnt out of being with people I want to be left alone to just relax and then she just interrupts whatever I'm doing and starts talking to me and I'm always thinking "if she was older and wasn't my sister I would totally tell her to shut up" because it's like I'm just there and you might not like the silence but it doesn't mean I don't like it either. Man I just don't know I have just been really annoyed and just let it all out at once, sorry.

  60. But what about your cousin who always report you to your mother like a Reporter even the little thing that you do will be reported to your mother

  61. my uncles wife is so ………. i dont even think annoying is the word she hates me which is what i dont even care about because she is nothing in my life ,we leave in the same house .reason being is because she invites my older brother to special events not me which i dont give a dame about n i have no problems about , shes want me to help her in situations with her dame evil smile. she has a daughter the same age as me which she treats like a queen and a girl cousin , ever since the fucken age 9 she has been fucken treating me like a bloody devil they way she looks at me talks to me and about me is very evil she is like a possesed women when she sees ooooh noo lets not talk about me as a dude doing something wrong …. she is behind my tail and always springs to tell my mom .one time she called me a devils child what respect must i give here fuck…..she does not wake up her child during the day when shez tired …. but when im sleeping its freaken wrong since im some kind of alien then i woke and started argueing with my mom as she couldnt understand how she treats me i swear im going to tell her shit im now 18 . im ending this 2009-2018

  62. im sean ndlovu im using my brothers device

  63. Thanks for telling me

  64. My 9 year old cousin or 10..and my cousin always always! use my phone as i want be on it so i wont here listening to my damn parents or uncle taking!

  65. my little brother is always provoking me and why I get angry he cries to his mom and smiles behind her back when I get yelled at
    I feel like I want to punch his devilish face but instead I will use this energy to make a video or write a song

  66. I’m like five seconds away from punching someone

  67. You forgot one tip

    The machine gun

  68. worst scenario is having to share your room and only space with them and they just so happen to be annoying with everything they do . it makes me want to punch a wall

  69. My Aunt Is So Annoying Shes So Annoying Like I Cant When Im Fighting My Cousin My Cousin Blames Me Even Tho She Was The First One To Annoy Me Then My Aunt Suddenly Spanks Me I Wish I Didnt Had A Aunt And A Annoying Cousin And My Cousin Always Annoys Me Like Stick Her Tounge On Me And Always Bites Me And Then Again Im The One That Got Blamed Again I Know My Cousin Is Just 4 But Shes So Annoying So Is My Aunt😡😡😡

  70. I still can't get it

  71. my aunt forces me to smile when’s
    She’s around and she says a lot of weird stuff

  72. I living with fucking 12 family members.. no privacy at all and my mom won't shut the fuck up

  73. I swear I CANT deal with my family. Thank you for this!

  74. came here bc my relatives are toxic

  75. Thanks I really really need my grandparents are so annoying.I H8te them they don't love me back.

    If you think im joking well no im all alone.
    Its not fake please don't think it's fake.

  76. I always hate my cousin and I always expect her to be kicked out to our house

  77. i have a cousin he is 8 he asked me to download minecraft for him when i refuse
    he tells his mom i slapped him before he also screams alot when i say dont scream he says(who cares)
    i just want to kill him

  78. i wish i have no cousins

  79. I don't wanna say mean things to my annoying cousin because she might tell this to her mom (her mom is the sis of my mom)

  80. My aunt is so freaking annoying I wanna kick her out of the house ughh!!

  81. How to deal with a annoying bro or sis:


  82. My cousin always asks me when he first sees me: let me play on your Nintendo switch' not even a hi or a anything, if i refuse he starts acting up and blackmailing me, i just hate him…



  84. My cringey annoying cousin is always saying dumb things and asking dumb questions and he always follows me at the house out of all the people and its really frustrating any tips on how to ignore him (he does it on purpose btw)

  85. i want to slap my family


  87. My cousin keily is like if ahe has anger issues she only 5 years old

  88. My cousins are tell of annoying thanks for the tips

  89. I have a annoying little cousin and she talks back and that pisses me off so much!

  90. It’s my sisters husband 😩 he is SO annoying he asks me to do ANYTHING literally.

  91. I've got my Gran staying until Tuesday and my brother and I literally can't stand her. She shouts whenever she speaks, she has no sense of personal space and she continually embarrasses us in public. She's also quite rude sometimes, I don't know if she actually realises it. I don't want her staying with us, and neither does my brother. I'm beginning to go crazy.

  92. My cousin is the most stubborn cunt in the world he can never accept when he’s wrong

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